Contributed by Erin Long
When we think of home management tools we tend to think of things like to-lists, meal plans, calendars, and goal planners.
I think that timers should definitely be on that list.
Time is a precious and very limited resource and timers can help us to use our time well as home managers. They can also help make parenting a bit easier.
Here are some ways that adding a timer to our home managing arsenal can help our homes run a bit smoother and make a little easier.
1. Self-care
I’m putting this as #1 because I do think it’s the most important. And I noticed a huge difference when I started. Like most women, moms specifically, I struggle to fit self-care into my demanding schedule and set aside the time I need for myself. So I started using a timer to make sure I actually got some ‘me time’ in each day. It’s typically interrupted but that’s better than nothing!
Start with whatever amount of time works for your schedule and do what it is that cares for your soul. You’re worth the time.
2. Cleaning
I mentioned I was working on this post to three friends when we were out for coffee and when I brought up this point it immediately became clear that there are two camps when it comes to cleaning: those who will clean until all the things are clean and those who don’t mind if all the things are messy and have to force themselves to clean. The four of us were split in half.
If you fall into the first camp, like me, set a timer and clean like a madwoman until it beeps. Then stop. Even if the floor needs to be mopped, even if there’s laundry on the couch. Stop and do something you enjoy or move onto something else that needs to be done. You can set another timer later, but for now leave the mess alone and move along.
If you fall into the second camp, set the timer and clean like a madwoman until it beeps. No stopping, no doing anything else, no dragging your feet. Clean the entire time. Even though cleanliness might not be your #1 priority you will appreciate your home being more cleaned and organized.
Why not set a timer while using the Spring Cleaning Checklist: The Ultimate Guide for Busy Families?
3. Setting work limits/boundaries for WAHMs
For work-at-home-moms a timer can be a powerful tool for productivity. When we set limits on our time we work harder and focus more because we don’t want to leave work undone when we really did have enough time to do it. When we see that clock ticking, we tend to get our butts in gear.
Since we’re at home it can be harder to focus on work when there are little ones around and we can see everything else that needs to be done. But when we set a reasonable limit on getting our work done we can tell everything else that we will get to it once the timer beeps but right now I’m working.
Setting a timer also lets our kids know that we will be with them again, but we just need a bit of time right now. It’s easier for them to be patient and entertain themselves when mommy’s going to be back soon.
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4. Go to bed on time
Sometimes at the end of a long day, when the house is quiet and peaceful, the last thing I want to do it go to bed. But I need sleep.
Enter the go-to-bed alarm. Once it goes off, it’s time to get ready for bed. No watching one more episode on Netflix, no more working on a project, no more putting off going to bed. Just go to bed.
This idea was inspired by Beth’s Go-to-Bed Challenge. Getting to bed on time is so important and setting an alarm can help you get the sleep you need.
Now I’m going to talk about using timers with your kids and I want to preface it with this: be careful. Depending on how you present the use of the timer and the temperament of your kids, it could stress them out and that is not what we’re going for here. So use caution and make it fun.
5. Get places on time
As my kids get older I run them around more. Which means I have to work hard to be on time.
So I started setting a timer to go off when we need to get ready to leave. Sometimes it’s 5 minutes because we just need to put on shoes and walk out the door. Other times it’s 20 minutes so we can gather up all the things we need.
When I set an alarm I don’t have to watch the clock because a beep will tell me it was time to go. And now I’m on time much more often.
6. Finish a task in a reasonable time
“Let’s see how much cleaning you can get done in 10 minutes!” is way more effective than “Go clean your room.” In the same way timers help motivate us grown ups to get moving, it also does for kids. Setting limits on time helps kids mentally break tasks down into smaller chunks they can handle. Cleaning their room for 10 minutes is much less daunting than cleaning their entire room. You might need to set more than one timer for a task but at least the job gets done, and faster.
When a kid has been dragging her feet on something, set a timer. It’s not too late to get them motivated!
When setting a timer, set your child up for success and encourage them to beat the timer. It can be an empowering experience. And when they don’t beat the timer, it’s a great way to show them how they could have used their time better and help them realize they need to focus on the work at hand.
7. Leave somewhere without a meltdown
I give my kids at least a five minute warning before we leave some place I know they don’t want to leave. I set the timer and give them warnings as it counts down and when it beeps, it’s time to go. Less tears, less screaming, and the timer is the bad guy telling them they have to leave, not mom.
Using a timer has streamlined aspects of homemaking for me and taken other things off my mind. It’s freed up some mental space and allowed me to focus more on the things that require my attention and kept me from watching the clock or nagging my kids. It’s also opened up time for self-care that I didn’t think existed.
I’d call that an invaluable tool!
Any other creative timer ideas out there?
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I mean… telling kids that it is a “bad” item that is stopping their fun and not you having places to be and they cant be their all the time can be bad for them. As well, it can’t always be a bad item, you have to teach them “we have to go we can’t be here forever”. While it could be nice to set a reminder for your kids that they have to leave soon, set it as tool for them and not for you to avoid any blame… another option is possibly just discipline a little?
Julia
I LOVE this! I have used a timer to clean and used one with the kids, mosy for ending fun activities, but I had forgotten how much more I get done with a timer!! I am definitely going to be using ours more. And not just on my phone, we have 3 ikea timers that cost a couple dollars each, in 3 different colors. Works great for keeping kids or activities separate. And we recently got a new timer for my Spd daughter that is called the Time Timer (clever name right?) that actually has a visual timer that counts down (a 360 degree circle that ticks down like a pie chart) that has been so very helpful. I’d highly recommend it, but it is a little fragile so I generally keep it away from my toddlers hands. And one last timer idea when my sensory processing disorder daughter constantly wants to play with me and I have chores or work to do, using the timer for “I will play with you when it goes off but until then mama needs to work” has been great and really helping us both!! Great post.
Marge
Hi Erin! Great ideas! I should definitely use the time for cleaning. It’s so easy to get distracted.
I use a “to do” reminder app to help me remember little daily things like taking my magnesium at bedtime or rinsing the sprouts every 12 hours when I’m growing them. I also have a productivity app based on the Pomodoro Method that I use when I’m working at the computer. I work for a solid 25 minutes then get a 5 minute break. It gives me a signal when break time is up and back at it for another 25 minutes, etc. It does help me keep focused, and it helps me physically. I get up off my chair and move around for those 5 minutes, and it gives my eyes a break, too – something I tend to forget to do.
JC
Thank you for this!! This is my first day without the kids in 5 years. We just sent our kids back to institutional school after homeschooling and I am currently not working outside the home. This will definitely help me keep my day on track so I can get all the things done I need to do and keep to my self care plan. My creative time suffers a lot and this may help me to be sure to get it in on a regular basis!!
Erin Long
I’m so glad you connected with this! Timers really are a great way to get that oh-so-important self-care time in and help keep your day on track. Enjoy that time to yourself!