I used to suffer from a serious condition called BCI. (Butt-on-Couch Inertia.)
It’s a terrible affliction whereby the sufferer’s butt is superglued to the couch in the evenings amidst the magical stillness and silence of the late-night hours. This chronic condition is exacerbated by peacefully sleeping children, netflix or a good book, and an excessively comfortable couch or recliner.
Symptoms worsen considerably with the intoxicating crackle of a fire in the fireplace, any forbidden-to-children treats, and a hot beverage that can be consumed without interruption.
I was on the brink, people.
Drunk on silence late at night, but complete and utter road kill by the crack of dawn. Classic case of BCI.
Every morning I dragged my sorry behind out of bed at the latest possible minute, I would curse myself repeatedly for not going to bed earlier. I’d drag myself around all day, propping open my eyelids, loading up on more coffee than I should (especially considering my adrenal fatigue), and generally feel absolutely stinkin’ miserable (not to mention unproductive). Oh, and let’s just say – those days didn’t exactly lend themselves to a sunny disposition, either.
But what happened when the kids were finally all blissfully slumbering in their beds that night? BOING! I’m suddenly glued to the couch and before I know it – it’s midnight or later… again.
The kids wake up before us and play nicely or colour, or watch a show downstairs. We’re getting the kids to school on time. Everything’s “fine”, technically.
But I felt constantly frustrated and behind and strung out. Mornings were way too rushed, and impatient words and unhappy kids were the norm. I hated that.
I knew that I wanted to start getting up earlier – there are so many obvious benefits to starting your day off with the things that feed your soul and mind. I want to feel ready to face the day head-on, instead of feeling like the day is stomping angrily into my bedroom, ripping me from my warm bed, and tossing me mercilessly into the fray.
My friend Crystal is a total rockstar at the morning routine thing. She even offers a Make Over Your Mornings 14-Day eCourse. I’ve stayed at her house for the weekend, kept her up way-too-late talking (BCI is contagious, I guess), and she still managed to get up way before the rest of us, getting stuff done in the early morning hours like a total boss.
I’ve wanted to maximize my morning hours like Crystal for a long time now, but something was getting in my way. Yeah – that whole Butt-on-Couch Inertia. It’s a real thing, people.
But when I committed to myself that 2016 is going to the year that I finally get vibrantly healthy again, I realized that it starts with just one simple habit: GO THE HECK TO BED.
I had to find a way to overcome my BCI and get myself to bed way earlier, so that I could then take back my mornings. It was impossible for me to be getting up earlier if I kept staying up way too late and being chronically exhausted. Plus, my adrenal fatigue actually started to worsen instead of improve, which freaked me out.
I finally told myself that enough is enough – and I challenged myself to change my bedtime habits as the first step toward better health and happiness in 2016.
So I did.
Yeah – really, simple as that. It turns out that the key to making yourself go to bed earlier is simply this: want it badly enough.
Yup. Simpler than you thought, right? No tricks, no timers, no bribes. That’s the thing about human nature – if you want something (realistic) badly enough, you’ll generally find a way to get it.
If you take a good, honest look at your life and find that you actually want those late-night quiet hours zoned out on the couch more than you want adequate sleep and a peaceful morning routine, then there isn’t a blog post, book, timer, or bribe out there that can change your habits.
BUT… if you’re at a point where you really, really want to overcome your Butt-on-Couch Inertia and start getting the rest you deserve so that your days can start off better… come along with me, my friends.
If I can actually do this successfully, then I know you can too.
I know that sometimes we all just need a little boost to get over that initial hump of getting started, so I created a free challenge for you all to join in, with daily email support and tough love straight to your inbox.
Sign up below to get your free daily emails for the duration of your 21 days.
Then leave a comment on this post to publicly state your ‘head-on-pillow time’ for the challenge. (Mine’s 10:30pm.)
We’ll get into all the nitty-gritty stuff in the email series: winding down, creating a bedtime routine, natural sleep aids, finding your ideal bedtime, making sure you still get “me time”, night owl tips, creating our new morning goals, and so much more.
The first email will be a “day zero” to help you get ready, including a free printable to track your progress and write down your goals, then you dive into Day 1 after that. Don’t miss my post on 7 Ways to Fake That You’re a Morning Person to help get momentum going in the right direction!
Dr. Samreen
Head-on-pillow time – 10:30 PM !
R&H Assistant
You’ve got this!
Nancy Blockcolsky
I’m supposed to comment on the blog with my goal bedtime, but I can’t seem to find a place to comment on the blog, only to reply to someone else’s comment. What am I missing?
R&H Assistant
It’s at the very bottom of this page, Nancy. 🙂
Jean
Target is 11:00 PM!
R&H Assistant
Go for it!
Jamie
My new head on the pillow time is 10:30!
R&H Assistant
You can do it, Jamie!
J
Head to pillow 11:55 pm
Kristina
My head needs to be on the pillow by 9:30!
R&H Assistant
Go for it, Kristina!
Phil D
I’m sick of all these late nights. I’m a 44 year old executive who should have so much more self contol! It’s 3:11am now – but tomorrow I commit to being asleep by 11pm latest!
R&H Assistant
You can do it!
Julia
11 pm. I’m ready to feel like the full me and live to my potential!
R&H Assistant
You can do it!
Linda
Still awake 1.31 am. 🙁
R&H Assistant
I’m sorry, Linda. But tonight is a new night! What is your bedtime routine?
Nikki
Still up at 2am, I know the feeling, but I just discovered this site, because I am fed up, I have hit bottom. I am 45 and I don’t want to go to bed. I am going to bed. Which, considering my last 2 weeks or longer I went to bed past 4:30 am, this is an improvement.
ANTOINETTE
Sleep at 11 pm – wake up at 6 am
R&H Assistant
You can do it!
Ellie
11pm bedtime- up at 7
R&H Assistant
You can do it, Ellie!
Emma
11pm bedtime, up at 9am.
R&H Assistant
You can do it!
Barry
I hope to be in bed by 10 pm – 10:30 at the latest, as I have to be up by 7 am
R&H Assistant
You can do it!
makfan
Okay, my time is 11 p.m., with a 6:45 wakeup time. I am terrible at starting new projects after 9 p.m. and I feel compelled to get to a “good stopping point.”
R&H Assistant
You can do it!
Mechthild
My plan is to be in bed by 9:00pm, head on the pillow by 9:30pm and get-up at 5:15am (if I am not already awaken by the mosuqe’s call to prayer at 4:40am).
R&H Assistant
Excellent plan! 🙂
Kath
So I did the challenge once. A bit half heartedly, but I have learnt some stuff and made some improvements. This time I am not going to be overambitious for the sake of it.Bed by 11pm, lights out by 1130,so sleep around midnight. For 7-7.30am wake up. Sleep as Android app to record sleep quality and gentle wake up in light sleep phase. Twilight app to reduce blue light from phone. Find my sexy orange blue light filter glasses for evenings. Maybe a digital detox too…
Kath Manning
It made me smile how many of these are posted in the early hours like this one! Meeting at 9am and here I am playing games on my phone! 10.30pm going to bed time for 7am getting up. From now on! Thank you, great idea!
Kath Manning
By the way, I’m in the UK, so it is currently 2.27am…
R&H Assistant
Everyone starts in the same boat! 🙂 You can do it, Kath!
Laurie
Help me, Mr. Wizard!
Elaine
Ok, let’s try this
R&H Assistant
Go for it, Elaine!
Elaine
Scrolling to the bottom doesnt provide the link.
It only brings up all the other posts which never ends.
Is there another way to sign up?
R&H Assistant
There should be a sign up box where you can put your email address with a green box that say’s ‘I’M READY!’ right below the post and before Beth’s bio. If you still don’t see it, let me know.
J
Same! But I found this in an old response from 2016 and the link works 🙂
https://app.convertkit.com/landing_pages/24458
ilka
22:00
R&H Assistant
Make sure to get enough sleep! You can do it!
Catherine
10pm
R&H Assistant
Go for it!
Maria
9 pm for a 5 am start to my day. It feels a little insane after so many years of going to bed after midnight (1,2,3am) but if I can get this part, everything else will improve.
R&H Assistant
Adjusting to a new schedule takes time, but you can do it!
Chris
9:30
R&H Assistant
You can do it!
Lucy
I need HELP to break my horrible habit of going to bed at 1-2am.
I never had a healthy pattern sleep not even when i was a child. I want to be a good roll model for son who just turned 4 and is about to start pre k. I envy people who can sleep early and get up early and get things done early am. I feel like a failure. My goal is to be in bed at 10.30pm but never can achieve it 🙁
Ningsi
What happened? Are you a forever night owl or did you change? My 2 year old is now staying up late with me and I need HELP. I hope this email service is still active. Here we go…