I used to suffer from a serious condition called BCI. (Butt-on-Couch Inertia.)
It’s a terrible affliction whereby the sufferer’s butt is superglued to the couch in the evenings amidst the magical stillness and silence of the late-night hours. This chronic condition is exacerbated by peacefully sleeping children, netflix or a good book, and an excessively comfortable couch or recliner.
Symptoms worsen considerably with the intoxicating crackle of a fire in the fireplace, any forbidden-to-children treats, and a hot beverage that can be consumed without interruption.
I was on the brink, people.
Drunk on silence late at night, but complete and utter road kill by the crack of dawn. Classic case of BCI.
Every morning I dragged my sorry behind out of bed at the latest possible minute, I would curse myself repeatedly for not going to bed earlier. I’d drag myself around all day, propping open my eyelids, loading up on more coffee than I should (especially considering my adrenal fatigue), and generally feel absolutely stinkin’ miserable (not to mention unproductive). Oh, and let’s just say – those days didn’t exactly lend themselves to a sunny disposition, either.
But what happened when the kids were finally all blissfully slumbering in their beds that night? BOING! I’m suddenly glued to the couch and before I know it – it’s midnight or later… again.
The kids wake up before us and play nicely or colour, or watch a show downstairs. We’re getting the kids to school on time. Everything’s “fine”, technically.
But I felt constantly frustrated and behind and strung out. Mornings were way too rushed, and impatient words and unhappy kids were the norm. I hated that.
I knew that I wanted to start getting up earlier – there are so many obvious benefits to starting your day off with the things that feed your soul and mind. I want to feel ready to face the day head-on, instead of feeling like the day is stomping angrily into my bedroom, ripping me from my warm bed, and tossing me mercilessly into the fray.
My friend Crystal is a total rockstar at the morning routine thing. She even offers a Make Over Your Mornings 14-Day eCourse. I’ve stayed at her house for the weekend, kept her up way-too-late talking (BCI is contagious, I guess), and she still managed to get up way before the rest of us, getting stuff done in the early morning hours like a total boss.
I’ve wanted to maximize my morning hours like Crystal for a long time now, but something was getting in my way. Yeah – that whole Butt-on-Couch Inertia. It’s a real thing, people.
But when I committed to myself that 2016 is going to the year that I finally get vibrantly healthy again, I realized that it starts with just one simple habit: GO THE HECK TO BED.
I had to find a way to overcome my BCI and get myself to bed way earlier, so that I could then take back my mornings. It was impossible for me to be getting up earlier if I kept staying up way too late and being chronically exhausted. Plus, my adrenal fatigue actually started to worsen instead of improve, which freaked me out.
I finally told myself that enough is enough – and I challenged myself to change my bedtime habits as the first step toward better health and happiness in 2016.
So I did.
Yeah – really, simple as that. It turns out that the key to making yourself go to bed earlier is simply this: want it badly enough.
Yup. Simpler than you thought, right? No tricks, no timers, no bribes. That’s the thing about human nature – if you want something (realistic) badly enough, you’ll generally find a way to get it.
If you take a good, honest look at your life and find that you actually want those late-night quiet hours zoned out on the couch more than you want adequate sleep and a peaceful morning routine, then there isn’t a blog post, book, timer, or bribe out there that can change your habits.
BUT… if you’re at a point where you really, really want to overcome your Butt-on-Couch Inertia and start getting the rest you deserve so that your days can start off better… come along with me, my friends.
If I can actually do this successfully, then I know you can too.
I know that sometimes we all just need a little boost to get over that initial hump of getting started, so I created a free challenge for you all to join in, with daily email support and tough love straight to your inbox.
Sign up below to get your free daily emails for the duration of your 21 days.
Then leave a comment on this post to publicly state your ‘head-on-pillow time’ for the challenge. (Mine’s 10:30pm.)
We’ll get into all the nitty-gritty stuff in the email series: winding down, creating a bedtime routine, natural sleep aids, finding your ideal bedtime, making sure you still get “me time”, night owl tips, creating our new morning goals, and so much more.
The first email will be a “day zero” to help you get ready, including a free printable to track your progress and write down your goals, then you dive into Day 1 after that. Don’t miss my post on 7 Ways to Fake That You’re a Morning Person to help get momentum going in the right direction!
Alissa
This is something I’m really needing right now. My goal time is 10pm. For some reason I can be dragging all day but once it hits night time I’m awake and I just can’t get to sleep. I really want to have a good productive day. So let’s do this!
jennifer
It’s funny I’m commenting at almost midnight my time. Can you tell I do not get enough sleep?! But the moment I hit the pillow the ONLY thing that keeps my mind from racing is this ABSOLUTELY INTOXICATING SCENT of vetiver and cedarwood – this “skin butter” called “Comfort”. It is the ONLY thing that has ever worked drifting me off to dreamland. They describe it as an “enchanted forest” and that is absolutely what it is like. It is the most addictive, grounding, intoxicating scent ever. http://www.beechersbotanicals.com/#!our-products/kmt72/!/COMFORT-Vetiver-&-Cedarwood-Organic-Skin-Butter/p/58239809/category=15385027
Alissa
Thanks for the scent tip, I’m going to try it tonight since I’ve been trying to find the right night time scent. My husband loves the smell of cedarwood and I tried it with valor but not yet vetiver. Hoping for a good nights sleep.
Gina
Wind down at 9:30 pm and be in bed by 10:30 pm! I really need this because your article is totally ME!
Marsi
10:30 PM, began Jan 31st
Jennifer
This is great! I have a unique situation in that I work a couple of night per week until about 3am. But my problem is that on the nights that I don’t work I still am not going to bed until about 1am! So my goal is to still do the work I do but I can manage to get a ton more sleep if I go to bed early on the nights that I am off. So my goal bedtime is 10:30 for my non work nights and I hope to get up by 7am each morning.
Leah
I will go to bed at I0:30 and I will get up at 7:00
Jen
9:40pm
Kristi
I’m choosing 10 PM.
Jenn
I’m having trouble deciding between 10 and 10:30. I think I’m going to aim for 10 as I’ve been beyond exhausted. Starting tonight February 1st 🙂
Anne
10:00 for me!
Anne
For the record it’s 9:45, not 11:45!
Becci
10 PM bedtime for me
Mary
I’m in! 9 is wind down time, asleep by 10. Do I have to keep to this time on Friday & Saturday?
Amy
I aim for 8/830 bedtime and 930 sleep time! Let’s do this!!
Shelley
I am going to be in bed 8:20pm asleep by 9:00 and awake between 4:30 and 5:00 am
Jennifer
10:30 PM, 11 at the latest. Really! I’m (we’re) really going to do it this time!
Joseph
February 1st 9:30
Saun
February 1st at 9:30 pm
Jamie
Oh, and I commit to going to bed between 9:30 and 10:30pm… 10:30pm being the latest! My nights vary, and my husband works second shift and gets home right after 10. It is important to me to stay up and see him some nights for a few minutes.
Jamie
I really need this! I am doing Crystal’s morning course, and it is helping a lot! I really need to make going to bed earlier a priority. This post made me laugh so much because I have been suffering from BCI as well!!! It’s nice to know I’m not going through this alone 🙂
Dana
My goal is to be in bed by 10. My husband gets home from work late and we usually don’t eat dinner till about 8, so this will be a challenge but I’m going for it! Looking forward to the encouraging emails to keep me moving along 🙂