I used to suffer from a serious condition called BCI. (Butt-on-Couch Inertia.)
It’s a terrible affliction whereby the sufferer’s butt is superglued to the couch in the evenings amidst the magical stillness and silence of the late-night hours. This chronic condition is exacerbated by peacefully sleeping children, netflix or a good book, and an excessively comfortable couch or recliner.
Symptoms worsen considerably with the intoxicating crackle of a fire in the fireplace, any forbidden-to-children treats, and a hot beverage that can be consumed without interruption.
I was on the brink, people.
Drunk on silence late at night, but complete and utter road kill by the crack of dawn. Classic case of BCI.
Every morning I dragged my sorry behind out of bed at the latest possible minute, I would curse myself repeatedly for not going to bed earlier. I’d drag myself around all day, propping open my eyelids, loading up on more coffee than I should (especially considering my adrenal fatigue), and generally feel absolutely stinkin’ miserable (not to mention unproductive). Oh, and let’s just say – those days didn’t exactly lend themselves to a sunny disposition, either.
But what happened when the kids were finally all blissfully slumbering in their beds that night? BOING! I’m suddenly glued to the couch and before I know it – it’s midnight or later… again.
The kids wake up before us and play nicely or colour, or watch a show downstairs. We’re getting the kids to school on time. Everything’s “fine”, technically.
But I felt constantly frustrated and behind and strung out. Mornings were way too rushed, and impatient words and unhappy kids were the norm. I hated that.
I knew that I wanted to start getting up earlier – there are so many obvious benefits to starting your day off with the things that feed your soul and mind. I want to feel ready to face the day head-on, instead of feeling like the day is stomping angrily into my bedroom, ripping me from my warm bed, and tossing me mercilessly into the fray.
My friend Crystal is a total rockstar at the morning routine thing. She even offers a Make Over Your Mornings 14-Day eCourse. I’ve stayed at her house for the weekend, kept her up way-too-late talking (BCI is contagious, I guess), and she still managed to get up way before the rest of us, getting stuff done in the early morning hours like a total boss.
I’ve wanted to maximize my morning hours like Crystal for a long time now, but something was getting in my way. Yeah – that whole Butt-on-Couch Inertia. It’s a real thing, people.
But when I committed to myself that 2016 is going to the year that I finally get vibrantly healthy again, I realized that it starts with just one simple habit: GO THE HECK TO BED.
I had to find a way to overcome my BCI and get myself to bed way earlier, so that I could then take back my mornings. It was impossible for me to be getting up earlier if I kept staying up way too late and being chronically exhausted. Plus, my adrenal fatigue actually started to worsen instead of improve, which freaked me out.
I finally told myself that enough is enough – and I challenged myself to change my bedtime habits as the first step toward better health and happiness in 2016.
So I did.
Yeah – really, simple as that. It turns out that the key to making yourself go to bed earlier is simply this: want it badly enough.
Yup. Simpler than you thought, right? No tricks, no timers, no bribes. That’s the thing about human nature – if you want something (realistic) badly enough, you’ll generally find a way to get it.
If you take a good, honest look at your life and find that you actually want those late-night quiet hours zoned out on the couch more than you want adequate sleep and a peaceful morning routine, then there isn’t a blog post, book, timer, or bribe out there that can change your habits.
BUT… if you’re at a point where you really, really want to overcome your Butt-on-Couch Inertia and start getting the rest you deserve so that your days can start off better… come along with me, my friends.
If I can actually do this successfully, then I know you can too.
I know that sometimes we all just need a little boost to get over that initial hump of getting started, so I created a free challenge for you all to join in, with daily email support and tough love straight to your inbox.
Sign up below to get your free daily emails for the duration of your 21 days.
Then leave a comment on this post to publicly state your ‘head-on-pillow time’ for the challenge. (Mine’s 10:30pm.)
We’ll get into all the nitty-gritty stuff in the email series: winding down, creating a bedtime routine, natural sleep aids, finding your ideal bedtime, making sure you still get “me time”, night owl tips, creating our new morning goals, and so much more.
The first email will be a “day zero” to help you get ready, including a free printable to track your progress and write down your goals, then you dive into Day 1 after that. Don’t miss my post on 7 Ways to Fake That You’re a Morning Person to help get momentum going in the right direction!
Karla
Breastfeeding a 3mo old…my goal would be bed by 930 n back up at 12 to nurse again- but this would mean 4 days a week id get literally only 20 minutes with my husband. I want do do more with my day n i used to be a morning person n i miss it! But my husband isnt even home until 11pm n i leave for work before hes awake
Sneha
10:30 pm
Shan
HOP 12am
Kristy
10 pm
Leslie OClair
HOP Midnight
Miranda
10:30
Kristi
10:00
Cybil
Bedtime 8pm
Cecia
Bedtime 9:30
Blaire
I tried using the iPhone’s new iOS Bedtime system in the clock app…it tells me at 10 that I need to wrap it up to go to bed by 1030. But it rarely happens. Then it peacefully wakes me up at 0630. And then every 9 minutes after that until about 8am. I’m not even SLEEPING in that time?! What am I doing to myself? We will see what this can do….
Asha
Very interesting and useful challenge! Definitely want to start doing it. Head on Pillow by 10:15 (being ambitious)
Ramya
Head on pillow – 10.45
Laura
Love this! No more night owl nights!
Liz at Teta Lizza's Kitchen
This couldn’t have come at a better time. This morning was one of those “…constantly frustrated and behind and strung out…” mornings. I hate when the day starts and you feel like you’re 3 hours behind before heading out the door! HOP time 11PM though I’d really prefer 10PM!
Lorraine
In bed by 10:30, lights out and head on pillow by 11:00. It’s a relief to know I’m not the only one who does this! Thanks for being vulnerable enough to write this post, and for challenging all the other night owls to join together in the effort to get some more shut eye!
R&H Assistant
Thanks for the kind words, Lorraine! You can do it! 😀
K McD
Thank you for writing this! It’s helpful to know that I’m not the only one who does this. Your words also shed some light on some of the reasons behind my stay-up-late habit, so thanks for that too. Perhaps understanding why will help me change my patterns. My work schedule changes frequently, so I’ll have to set a somewhat-flexible HOP, but I’ll do it based on getting 8 hours of sleep prior to the time I need to wake the next morning.
Kay
Head on pillow 11pm 🙂
Lori
9:45p….10:30 latest
Ashten
Head on pillow 11pm
Kat
Head on pillow 11:00!
Lisa
Head-on-pillow time is 11:00. Thanks!! Man, do I need this!