I used to suffer from a serious condition called BCI. (Butt-on-Couch Inertia.)
It’s a terrible affliction whereby the sufferer’s butt is superglued to the couch in the evenings amidst the magical stillness and silence of the late-night hours. This chronic condition is exacerbated by peacefully sleeping children, netflix or a good book, and an excessively comfortable couch or recliner.
Symptoms worsen considerably with the intoxicating crackle of a fire in the fireplace, any forbidden-to-children treats, and a hot beverage that can be consumed without interruption.
I was on the brink, people.
Drunk on silence late at night, but complete and utter road kill by the crack of dawn. Classic case of BCI.
Every morning I dragged my sorry behind out of bed at the latest possible minute, I would curse myself repeatedly for not going to bed earlier. I’d drag myself around all day, propping open my eyelids, loading up on more coffee than I should (especially considering my adrenal fatigue), and generally feel absolutely stinkin’ miserable (not to mention unproductive). Oh, and let’s just say – those days didn’t exactly lend themselves to a sunny disposition, either.
But what happened when the kids were finally all blissfully slumbering in their beds that night? BOING! I’m suddenly glued to the couch and before I know it – it’s midnight or later… again.
The kids wake up before us and play nicely or colour, or watch a show downstairs. We’re getting the kids to school on time. Everything’s “fine”, technically.
But I felt constantly frustrated and behind and strung out. Mornings were way too rushed, and impatient words and unhappy kids were the norm. I hated that.
I knew that I wanted to start getting up earlier – there are so many obvious benefits to starting your day off with the things that feed your soul and mind. I want to feel ready to face the day head-on, instead of feeling like the day is stomping angrily into my bedroom, ripping me from my warm bed, and tossing me mercilessly into the fray.
My friend Crystal is a total rockstar at the morning routine thing. She even offers a Make Over Your Mornings 14-Day eCourse. I’ve stayed at her house for the weekend, kept her up way-too-late talking (BCI is contagious, I guess), and she still managed to get up way before the rest of us, getting stuff done in the early morning hours like a total boss.
I’ve wanted to maximize my morning hours like Crystal for a long time now, but something was getting in my way. Yeah – that whole Butt-on-Couch Inertia. It’s a real thing, people.
But when I committed to myself that 2016 is going to the year that I finally get vibrantly healthy again, I realized that it starts with just one simple habit: GO THE HECK TO BED.
I had to find a way to overcome my BCI and get myself to bed way earlier, so that I could then take back my mornings. It was impossible for me to be getting up earlier if I kept staying up way too late and being chronically exhausted. Plus, my adrenal fatigue actually started to worsen instead of improve, which freaked me out.
I finally told myself that enough is enough – and I challenged myself to change my bedtime habits as the first step toward better health and happiness in 2016.
So I did.
Yeah – really, simple as that. It turns out that the key to making yourself go to bed earlier is simply this: want it badly enough.
Yup. Simpler than you thought, right? No tricks, no timers, no bribes. That’s the thing about human nature – if you want something (realistic) badly enough, you’ll generally find a way to get it.
If you take a good, honest look at your life and find that you actually want those late-night quiet hours zoned out on the couch more than you want adequate sleep and a peaceful morning routine, then there isn’t a blog post, book, timer, or bribe out there that can change your habits.
BUT… if you’re at a point where you really, really want to overcome your Butt-on-Couch Inertia and start getting the rest you deserve so that your days can start off better… come along with me, my friends.
If I can actually do this successfully, then I know you can too.
I know that sometimes we all just need a little boost to get over that initial hump of getting started, so I created a free challenge for you all to join in, with daily email support and tough love straight to your inbox.
Sign up below to get your free daily emails for the duration of your 21 days.
Then leave a comment on this post to publicly state your ‘head-on-pillow time’ for the challenge. (Mine’s 10:30pm.)
We’ll get into all the nitty-gritty stuff in the email series: winding down, creating a bedtime routine, natural sleep aids, finding your ideal bedtime, making sure you still get “me time”, night owl tips, creating our new morning goals, and so much more.
The first email will be a “day zero” to help you get ready, including a free printable to track your progress and write down your goals, then you dive into Day 1 after that. Don’t miss my post on 7 Ways to Fake That You’re a Morning Person to help get momentum going in the right direction!
Jennifer
I’ll say 10:30 ( I probably should say 10, but it sounds so hard!!)
Jmg
I need to go to bed by 10 to get up to homeschool my kids….. I crave me time like crazy but think it will be much more productive at 6am
Kate
This challenge is exactly what I need! It’s the reason all my early morning routines end in failure… (or have done until now!) Aiming for 10.30-11pm bedtime. Thank you!
Mo
Yep, I need this so badly. I love watching the TV (news and then late show) and “working” on my computer; which may or may not include games. I’m claiming 11 pm as my in bed time.
Nicole
10:30-11 will be my goal. Right now I go to bed between 12-1. Alarm is always set for 5.
Ariel
ME!! Ohmygoodness me. And my hubby. It’s SO HARD, especially after our 2nd baby was born. We just want ME time. And then there’s the dream feed with the baby, so that adds in another 1/2 hr we could be “me-ing” it up. Our goal is to be upstairs by 10:30, dreamfeed will be at 11, lights out by 11:30. That’s a SMALL step for us, but will be HUGE. If possible, we’d like to move it back, but little by little. And when the wee one isn’t nursing anymore (or dream-feeding) I’m hoping we’ll get even better.
Annette
Looking forward to forming a better habit and building better health and wellness overall. Aiming for a nightly bedtime of at least 10:00pm. Thank you.
Sara
I need to do this soo badly. I know I sabotage myself by staying up late, but it hasn’t stopped me yet. My goal is to be in bed by 9:30pm.
Michelle
Realistically I can’t get to bed before 10:30, so that is my goal. Certainly better than the midnight that has been lately. I don’t need to get up before 6, but I have a toddler who wakes up several times in the night. My goal is to get about three 2 hour naps.
Thanks for the reminders!
Joyce
Hoping for a 10:30, probably better start with 11, it’s more realistic. Going to bed at 1 and being woken up by the toddler at 4:30 makes for a very short night!
Rachel
I never go to sleep before 11, and usually much later! 10:30 sounds good to me too. It’s a good compromise between 10 (which seems early for me) and 11 (when I am too tired to do the whole nighttime routine).
Kerri
9:15 ideally, 9:30 the latest, so I can get out of bed for 4:45am to work out. Yikes!
Lauren
10:30PM for me, too. I love reading before bed, and I don’t want to give it up, but I do have a tendency to get carried away “just one more chapter”-ing myself.
Julie
My goal is 10:30. I also need to work on getting my children to bed a little earlier. I think our mornings will go a lot smoother if we are all getting a better nights sleep.
Topbest
Very inspiring! I’m glad that you found a way to overcome your BCI and get yourself to bed way earlier.
Amanda
Great idea! 9:30 for me.
Gretchen
Hello! I get home from work between 11:30p-12a, so I would like to go to sleep at 1-1:15a instead of my usual 2a-5am ???
Jennifer A
10:30, and I need the tough love, and actually I need to start even earlier and get the kids in bed at a reasonable hour too. That way I do still get the quiet time at night. I’m working on it tonight, they only have 30 more minutes. Thanks, I’m looking forward to this!
Christy
I’m shooting for 10pm. With a 7 month old that doesn’t yet sleep through the night, I have to start going to bed earlier so I can at least get a couple of hours uninterrupted sleep. I’ve got to get back to waking up before the children so I can get some quiet morning time, not sleeping in until the last possible minute. Rushing around the house trying to get the 3 year old to preschool on time because I stayed in bed too late is just not working.
I need all the help I can get!
Julia
11:00 p.m. Overcoming my decades-long habit will have so many ripple effects–if by God’s grace I can pull it off. Thank you for this shove in the right direction!