Family Cloth?! Yup, Reusable Toilet Paper is a Real Thing. Get the lowdown here on how to get started, tips, and FAQs.
Originally published February 2014 || Last updated March 2020 to reflect the fact that I no longer use family cloth in my current day-to-day, but wouldn’t mind starting up again if necessary. Thanks to our current global state of affairs, this post started heavily trending, and I wanted it to be as accurate and helpful as possible. That, or provide you with something to mock on the internet instead of succumbing to despair. 😉
When I stop to think about it, I realize that I have peed in quite a few places over the course of my life thus far. Let’s see: if I’m counting by country, we’ve got Canada, USA, Bolivia, England, France, United Arab Emirates, Kenya, Tanzania, Uganda.
I’ve used the fancy, shiny facilities in a very expensive hotel in Banff, and I’ve squatted precariously over a disgusting hole surrounded by falling-apart wooden walls in the middle of a dusty African village.
I’ve bought a roll of purple toilet paper from the woman on the side of an African road, and I’ve used luxurious quilted 6-ply TP at homes where I had to check twice to make sure I hadn’t accidentally grabbed the hand towel.
I’ve awkwardly squatted behind a three-foot pile of bricks while the rest of my tour bus waited their turn in the hot African sun after we broke down on the side of the road.
Some people use bidets. Some use squatty potties. Some people wipe their butts with one hundred dollar bills.
I’ve used my own bathroom eleventy bajillion times in each of my third trimesters of pregnancy. I have, no doubt, peed in the woods a time or two, and maybe, just maybe, a lake. Definitely the ocean.
I’ve also gone tent-camping with a group at 37 weeks pregnant where the only “toilet” was a rickety wooden chair with a hole cut out, perched over a dug-out hole in the ground, surrounded by a tarp on only two sides. I’ve peed in quite a number of teeny-tiny airplane toilets while hurtling through the sky…
(If that’s not an odd string of memories to recall, well gosh, I don’t know what is.)
What exactly is the point I’m making here, you might ask? Well there are a few things:
- Everybody in the entire world has these bodily functions. All 7 billion or so of us.
- There are many (so many!) variations in toileting style and setting depending on location, preference, and cultural norms.
- SO. MANY. VARIATIONS.
With that in mind, I’d like to finally talk about one of my crazy crunchy hippie ways that often elicits a strong reaction: family cloth. I mean – I’ve tried more crazy things than most people, and if you’ve been around here for long you know that I’m a contrarian by nature. I don’t like to follow the crowd, and I enjoy going against the grain just to see what it’s like.
I cook from scratch nearly every day, use cloth napkins, reusable snack bags, and cloth towels, tried the no-poo method (baking soda and vinegar instead of shampoo), do a ton of natural DIY body care products (dry shampoo, eyeliner, hand sanitizer, toothpaste, and I hard-core LOVE my reusable menstrual supplies and sea sponge tampons. I also love homeschooling our four kids here on our 4.5 acres out in the country.
(Yes, I acknowledge that most folks think I’m totally nuts, but hey – I love my life. What can I tell ya?)
Most people call me crazy based on a partial list of these things alone, so telling you that I previously used cloth toilet paper shouldn’t be all that shocking, really.
Want the lowdown? Here we go:
Family cloth is a phrase used for washable, cloth toilet ‘paper’. I’ve used it, and I survived. ??
Cloth Toilet Paper: Supplies Needed
1. Clean wipes
You can make them out of old rags, be fancy and sew them yourself, buy them on etsy, or just buy a few packs of cheap baby washcloths and designate them for this purpose. You could also buy a pack of cloth baby wipes like these ones. Lots of options! (I opted for cheap baby washcloths, since that’s what I was also using with cloth diapers on my babe.)
2. Something to hold the used wipes
During the year or so that I was using cloth TP, I was also cloth diapering my third child. We had a diaper pail in the main floor bathroom, so I just tossed used wipes in there, and they got washed with the diapers. It was super convenient. Honestly, part of the reason I stopped using it was because we stopped cloth diapering eventually.
If I had wanted to continue I would have just needed to use a small lidded container, or a wet bag – the same type that you use for cloth diapers. Travel sized would be ideal because you’d want to launder every couple of days, at least. This style with two pockets would be ideal – one for clean wipes, and one (waterproof) for used. You can wash the bag along with the wipes each time.
3. A washing machine with hot water and detergent.
Pretty simple – if I weren’t washing with a load of cloth diapers I’d just wash them on their own in a small hot cycle with vinegar as a rinse aid, then dry on extra hot to help kill germs.
Cloth Toilet Paper (aka Family Cloth): Routine
Step one: walk into the bathroom and grab a wipe. Use dry or wet with water (your choice).
I recommend dry for #1 and wet for #2. In either scenario, I feel immensely cleaner than when I use paper. The cloth wipe is just… sturdier and more substantial for those purposes.
Step two: use your wipe as needed, then toss in the appropriate sealed bag or container until wash day (a couple of days max is my recommendation.)
Done! It’s not difficult, technically speaking. Most people simply have a cultural ick factor about, which is fine. Just remember that if you ever find yourself in a situation where you run out of paper toilet paper (ahem, panic buying… sigh), this is an option, and you can totally survive it.
Family Cloth FAQ’s:
How did you get started in it?
I cloth diapered my first baby from the get-go (as soon as his teeny little legs beefed up a little to fit the diapers I had bought). We didn’t want to buy expensive cloth wipes that are sold by the cloth diaper companies for a million bucks, so we marched ourselves down to the big-box store and got a pack of cheapie baby washcloths.
I think it was around $6 for 10 of them. We got a couple of packages, and those were our designated baby wipes. Then one time a few years ago I read a post about family cloth somewhere. Probably from this wise friend. And then my curiosity was piqued, and it was just a matter of time.
Isn’t it super gross?
I fear I’m overstating the obvious here, but bear with me. We cleaned all three of our kids’ poopy bums off with those cloths, washed them in our washing machine, and used them over and over again.
Got that? We wiped poop and pee… washed them… and reused them. The only argument that is usually left standing after getting the basics out of the way is simply the ick factor. People think it’s just gross.
Of course, that’s a totally subjective judgment, right? I personally don’t think it’s really any grosser than cloth diapers. And cloth diapering is becoming way more mainstream than it used to be (since disposables came on the scene.)
Can I be a part-timer?
Absolutely, 100% yes. I was a part-timer at best since I didn’t have a system set up in my upstairs bathroom. I used the main floor one all day long and it’s where my diaper pail was (and it’s close to the laundry room).
And of course, it’s advisable to keep regular disposable toilet paper on hand for guests (and resistant spouses).
Some people also like to use it for just #1 and not have to deal with #2. Personally, I love it for both. I find it so much more comfortable and luxurious feeling. I feel cleaner. I also use it for ‘that time of the month’ which is extra-awesome. We ladies tend to feel icky in those days because it’s tough to get totally clean with just paper. With a warm, wet cloth, I feel like I’m actually getting 100% clean.
Full disclosure: sometimes I tag team it and use a bit of paper to wipe first, then a wet cloth for a more thorough clean. What’s that? TMI? I think we crossed that line back in the title of the post, amiright?? And yet here you are. 😉
For laundry as a part-timer: I would throw them in with my regular laundry if it were just #1 wipes. For #2 I prefer to use hot water. For #1 I’m ok with just a warm wash, considering that’s what I do with any clothes or bedding that have been accidentally peed on. #momlife
Doesn’t it smell bad in your bathroom?
Nope. Not if the container or bag is sealed/zipped and the contents washed every 2-3 days.
But WHY???
Save money (a negligible amount once you factor in laundry costs, but I think it’s still possible). Save the environment. Those are big enough reasons for me. You may make a different choice for your family, and that’s cool too. I just wanted to give you a rundown on how we do it because people have asked.
I ultimately didn’t stick with it more than a year or so, as I explained above, but I’m super glad I tried it. Family cloth is way easier than you think, and really – you might even enjoy it.
Oh, and one last reason why you might want to give it a try? Maybe, just maybe, you’ll find yourself in the midst of a global pandemic and everyone has panic-bought all the dang toilet paper in the city. Maybe a clean, soft cloth is better than leaves. Maybe. Your call.
Roberta Kelly
Thanks for your article….. I’m just getting started and have made a mix with essential oils dampen the wet ones and am on the hunt for a mix of some kind to use in the bucket for the poopy wet ones using something to kill pathogens that might be lurking. Thinking about water, vinegar and an anti-viral/antibacterial essential oil mix…. probably with some liquid castile soap included….. Back in the 70’s I did the bleach and water with the kids diapers…. I did buy diapers and cut into squares to use this time.. Thanks again!!!!
b brekke
love fam cloth 🙂 when there’s no babe in cloth diapers in my home (currently), i put the wipes in the wash on a rinse cycle with some vinegar or biokleen, and then toss dirty towels in to wash on hot after. no prob at all, doesn’t feel like an ‘extra’ to me. i use this for cleanliness, earth friendliness, and also just the sheer fact that if SHTF, tp is one less thing to worry about sourcing. finally invested in the bidet when everyone obsessively bought all the tp last spring and haven’t looked back!
Sharon
I’ve used family cloth for #1 for several years. I started out with cut up old tshirts and eventually hand sewed some from cotton flannel.
I have a bathroom sized trash can in the bathroom. I think it’s 4 gallon. I put one of those mesh laundry bags in it and throw the cloth in there after wiping #1.
Then when it gets full it gets zipped up and goes into the laundry with everything else. I’m sure that we’ve saved a ton of money over the years.
I store the cloths in a mesh basket which I attached to the toilet paper holder with two cloth strips.
I also use the tshirts pieces instead of tissues.
J
My grandmother put baby diapers into a covered pail of half vinegar half water until she had enough diapers to do a full load of wash. No smell.
Clean By Nature, NY
Agree, sometimes DIY stuff is just too much when you’re already busy on your daily tasks. But we should try as much as possible to avoid unnecessary waste
Caroline
Recently I thought – how much toilet paper do I use, just to wipe pee? I started keeping an old flannel next to the toilet, just for wiping pee. There’s only me uses it because my partner is a man. Every few days I wash it. I use paper for poo, but still save a lot of paper. I read a ‘prepper’ site article about making your own toilet paper, which seemed a massive effort and kind of missed the point! I wrote a comment about using a pee cloth and it was never printed. Obviously too rude!! Thank you for this note of sanity.
Susee
Going along with this idea… I keep a refilled plastic water bottle with a squirt top by my toilet. It makes a cheep bidet. Dabbing try with TP doesn’t work. Baby wash clothes work and are so much softer.
MaryKate Smith
So why did you stop using family cloth and go back to tp?
Beth
Convenience, I suppose? I enjoyed trying it out, but ultimately I didn’t find the benefits outweighed the work of it when it came to doing it on its own. (Dropping a used cloth into a cloth diaper pail is literally zero extra work or fuss.)
Kat
We used family cloth for over a decade and had to stop due to chronic UTIs. Yes urinary tract infections. Gross. We moved and sold our front load washer and dryer. Top loads DO NOT clean or sanitize properly and they end up being a biohazard. I would never ever go back even with front load after all the money and agony from those years of sickness. Many other places to reduce and be green in a household but dealing with adult human waste is something I will never compromise on again.
shay
I have used these for years. I purchased a package of 48 white bath cloths which serve me fine. I was them with my undies or alone.
Jay F.
Ngl I’m here because of the pandemic TP hoarders. In doing some research came across the phrase “family cloth,” which I find humorous, and that led to your article. But you make some very good points and I am not at all opposed to the idea of using family cloths on a regular basis. We shall see what happens. Thanks for posting this!
Karin
I’ve been using family cloths for over a year now and definitely feel cleaner. Especially for #2. Think about it….if a bird pooped on you, would you just wipe it off with paper? Plus I’m doing another small thing for the environment. Sadly family and friends think I’m loopy
Kat
We used family cloth that I made myself for over a decade. Saved us SO much money especially with 2 kids in the house. You HAVE TO have good quality front load washer to clean them properly. Kids grew up, moved out and we moved and rented and SOLD my set because the house appeared to have a new top load washer and dryer. HUGE mistake. I started getting UTIs and it took me YEARS and thousands of dollars to even comprehend where my infections were coming from. Poop not getting properly washed and sanitized from our family cloth. I’d never go back again even with how much better cloth wipes your butt with 1-2 wipes compared to gobs of TP and throwaway wipes. Family cloth is a biohazard and I’d never do it again!
Marie
Came here looking for how to manage the #2 situation when sick, as in a peri-bottle won’t make it ‘underwear clean’. Having no children it’s interesting that cloth TP seem to always be tied to cloth diapers. Or some pre-clean type method. Which probably makes sense with the laundry load allocation.
I refuse to use TP for #1. Started cloth for that some years ago, and have done many a dance in front of a dryer because I was so not going to deal with the ick of TP. We were recently out of ‘manly’ Charmin TP, and bemused to see the purchasing situation a few weeks ago. Unresolved situation, I might add. Someone is not happy using my allergy free unbleached recycled. I’d still prefer to leave that to him, and use something nicer, like cloth, but the washing part gives me great pause.
Diane
Great post. I refuse to chase around looking for TP when there are reasonable alternatives. After reading this post and several others I am going to prepare to use family cloth when the TP runs out. I will NOT be the crazy woman losing her grip over toilet paper. Family cloth sounds like a great idea for long term use too. I don’t have that ick factor since I have seen, and smelled, many a scary outhouse and Sears catalog and tree trunks in my lifetime to write a book
. The lack of softness is unbearable. I think I will take your advice and try not to drop the cloth into the toilet by habit. Thanks!
Jamee
I’ve been using family cloth for over 5 years and will never go back to paper. I carry it everywhere. However, for those who have a low tolerance for the ick factor I will say that to get my family I board, and because I too do not handle stinky body stuff, I started everyone out with their own cloth pattern and we use a peri bottle to rinse before drying with our cloth. This makes the cloth no dirtier than your underwear which you wash regularly. It does not stink this way and gets washed along with clothing. We do it because 1. I am allergic to TP 2. It saves money and is better for the environment 3. I don’t have to worry about running out even when there is a pandemic and people start hording TP. It also makes me feel cleaner all the time. So, if this all sounds good do some research. There are lots of us on FB and there are even groups to learn how to make it. Just FYI I’m also a weirdo who does lots of things my way and not the way most people do it so I get it if its not your thing. To each their own.
Ronda Hall
Great article! When I was little we used washcloths when we ran out of TP. Of course as a child it was “gross!” Now as an adult it sounds like a good idea.
When I used cloth diapers I would use Lysol© concentrate (in the brown bottle) for soaking and adding to the wash. What would be the difference here? Bleach is great but it cant be used with color fabric.
Deborah
Just in time for the toilet paper shortage! I’ve read about these before, but haven’t tried them. I will if we run out of TP. I have a bucket I can use. I’ll put water and a bit of bleach in there. Maybe some lemon essential oil. Wash on hot water when needed.
Robin Reed
Just be careful on the bleach! It will eat your material! We used Family cloth for years and then when our home burned to the ground I realized just how much money I had saved when I had to buy a bit of TP! I was not used to paying that price! Now that we are in our new home I need to make more “Family Cloth”, unpaper towels and cloth napkins. I have collected quite a bit more at thrift stores. I contacted a cloth diaper service and purchased used diapers to use as rags. It really is just a generational thing I remember when paper diapers first came out. Then paper wipes. What do you think earlier generations wiped their babies with? Cloth. In our house we had white wash cloths and colorful wash cloths. One was for faces and the other for fannies.