By contributing writer Alexandra Maul of Made to Glow
“Be a warrior, not a worrier.”
I came across that quote while on a 5-hour plane delay on route to facilitate and present at a high-pressure business meeting. I was already very nervous, overworked, and exhausted from long weeks of preparation. I’m not a huge fan of public speaking and the travel issues weren’t helping.
My mind was buzzing with worry…
What if I don’t arrive in time? What if the meeting doesn’t go well? Now I won’t get enough sleep, what if I’m too tired? Will this stress push my body over the edge and cause me to get sick? I can’t get sick, I have too much to do! I’m supposed to be handling my stress better and healing my adrenals and hormones, this is going to set me back for sure, how will I ever get better?!
I could feel my muscles tensing, my jaw clenching, my stomach rumbling, and a headache coming on.
I decided I had to get a grip and made myself start my go-to stress relief practices. I took a deep breath and started to flip through a magazine when my eyes caught on a quote – be a warrior, not a worrier. Something about that saying, “be a warrior,” resonated with me.
It really struck me as an opportunity to change my thinking and reframe the worrying.
To actually stop the fretting in its tracks.
Worrying is usually due to fear of uncertainty… of the unknown.
Our minds go directly to the ‘what-ifs’ and that cycle of thinking can be consuming, and is definitely not good for our wellbeing.
To me, it’s about the lack of control. I am a planner and I like to be prepared, and when something is unknown, it makes me uneasy. But the reality is that anything can happen, and when it does, we are equipped to deal with it.
That’s where this mantra really hits home for me.
Being a warrior, and not a worrier puts the confidence and power back in YOU. Whatever happens, you will be able to deal with it.
A warrior triumphs, a worrier cowers. This notion of strength and resilience is empowering. We need to have more confidence that we can and will conquer whatever gets thrown at us.
It’s about trusting in yourself that you will handle whatever comes your way.
And that calms my fears, even if just for a moment. And then I repeat the mantra and breathe.