Heads up, y’all. My kids have an announcement to make:
Yup, it’s true. Sometime in early October, Canaan will be promoted to Big Brother! The Ricci family train is awesome, but we decided that it needed a caboose. Plus, there was an extra seat at the dining room table that needed filled. And so here we are. 🙂
In anticipation of the many questions, let’s do a Q&A, shall we?
Q. When’s the due date?
A. We’re saying “early October”, which puts me around the end of the first trimester, currently. I’m not sharing my exact due date this time around because I’ve gone significantly overdue (at least a week) all three times. Feeling like a watched pot and getting pitying looks from far and wide is not fun when you’re tired and miserable and trying so hard to be patient (let alone convincing everyone around you to be patient…) Let’s just say that this is a proactive measure for my own mental health. 😉
Q. Are the kids excited?
A. As excited as I’ve ever seen them! They have been completely adorable about the whole thing, especially Canaan, who kisses and hugs my belly daily, and talks frequently about how cute “da baby” is. They’ll be 5, 7, and 9 when the baby is born, and although it isn’t the age spacing I envisioned many years ago, I think it’ll be fun and special in its own way. This baby will be doted on, no doubt about it.
Q. Was it planned?
A. None of your business. (Ha!) But since you’re all secretly wondering, I’ll tell you that yup it was! Canaan, our youngest, will be five this June. When he was born, our family didn’t feel complete, and yet in the years since we also haven’t felt like it was the right time to throw a baby into the mix. With job transitions, financial hardships, and moving (several times), the time wasn’t right. Last fall we finally decided to go for it, and got the positive pregnancy test a few months ago. Bliss and joy all around! (Plus, as my doctor remarked about the pregnancy, “you’re not actually that old!” lolol! I’m 33, so not quite ancient yet. Thanks, doc. Ha!)
Q. Are you insane?
A. Quite likely. (But let’s be honest, that happened three kids ago. Parenting ain’t for wimps, yo. And also, overpopulation is a myth, so chill out, haters, and take a deep breath – it’ll be okay.)
Q. Are you ready for the dummies who will say passive-aggressive things in the grocery store because they think they have the right to an opinion on your uterus?
A. Bring it. #feistyredhead #mamabear
Q. Are you feeling okay?
A. Yup, I’m VERY lucky to have straightforward, non-complicated pregnancies. Praying that the pattern repeats this time! No morning sickness (you can hate me for it, I get it), which I’m grateful for. Just needing to pee a bit more than usual, needing to eat more frequently (or else I get a bit nauseous), and Tired-with-a-capital-T. I’ve been falling asleep at 9pm most nights, in the middle of a book or TV show, which has been quite out of character for this night owl. All-in-all, easy-peasy. (The end of my pregnancies are usually much, much harder, so there’s that.)
Q. Pregnancy care and birth plans?
A. I have a midwife, who I met last week for the first time. I LOVE HER. Oh my gosh – we are a perfect match, and I was so relieved. She was so enthusiastic about my eating habits that before she handed me my info packet, she took out the standard-issue pamphlet of the Canada Food Guide, and replaced it with a handout that she made with real food, nutrient-dense info on healthy eating during pregnancy. We’re talking like “eat wild-caught fish, grass-fed meat, animal fats, lots of veggies… avoid industrial oils, refined grains, sugar, etc.” My real-foodie-heart was bursting. 🙂 As for our birthing plans, we are excitedly planning on a home birth, attended by our midwife.
Q. Are you finding out the gender ahead of time?
A. Yes, and I can’t wait!! We were surprised at birth with #1, found out via ultrasound with #2, were surprised at birth with #3. We figured we may as well keep the pattern, and find out via ultrasound with this one!
Q. Is this your last Ricci bambino?
A. That’s our plan, as far as these kinds of plans are able to be kept. 😉 As soon as we find out the gender, there will be a large decluttering of the multiple bins of baby clothes in our storage room, and baby gear to be given away once it’s no longer needed for this little one.
Q. Holy belly batman! Are you having twins?
A. I know, my bump popped pretty early! I was showing around seven weeks in form-fitting clothes. However, all of my friends with fourth babies (or more) say that it happened to them too. My belly is a pro at making space now, so it knew just what to do. (And for the record: baby bumps typically show earlier and earlier with subsequent pregnancies. And that’s a nope on the twin question.)
Okay, that’s all I’ve got. Any more questions? Ask away! I’m an open book. (On everything but my due date, haha!)
Thanks for sharing in our joy!
Hooray! I’m expecting our second baby at the end of September, and am beyond excited. Very unsure whether to find out the gender this time, we had a surprise with our little girl (who will be almost 3.5 when she becomes a big sister), but I feel like maybe it would help her to know what it is? We’re also planning our second home birth, so glad you love your midwife, it makes a big difference! (Though to be fair I think pretty much all the midwives I’ve met are lovely). Congratulations to you all again!
Don’t forget about rebozo!!!
Definitely won’t!!! 😀
Congratulations! That’s wonderful!! I loved your answer about people’s opinions and not believing in overpopulation. Meeeee too. It’s still brave to say though! I live in NYC so I worry about the looks and comments when/if I am expecting a fourth one day (I would love more, but think perhaps we will have a slightly longer gap between now, like you). It’s not really that people are more vocal, it’s just that there are so many people that you encounter the opinions many more times in a day or week than you would if you were only going out occasionally or driving everywhere. I will have to have some confident (some snappy and some gracious…) comebacks when the time comes. Congratulations again!
Thanks for your congrats! It’s lovely to hear from people who truly share in our joy. xo
congrats! we are pregnant with #4 as well and are just about as far along as you. will be fun to watch how our babies grow over the next few months. you can check out my very downplayed, extremely low key announcement here: https://theanywheremom.wordpress.com/2017/03/09/countdown-to-september-baby-4/
Awesome!! Congrats to you also. 🙂 It’s certainly different looking ahead to #4, knowing full well what’s ahead, eh? No naive notions here! Ha!
You’re the most cutest pregnant women ever! You look fantastic. So excited for your growing family. What a gift & blessing it is to bring new life into the world. Congratulations Ricci clan ???
Awww, you are the best, as always!! xoxoxoxoxox!!
Oh YAY!!! 🙂 So exciting! I am 33-ish weeks with my second (not really sharing my due date either because I went to 42 with my first!). Similar pregnancies as you–no morning sickness, only a little queasiness if I didn’t eat often enough, and first trimester I was completely EXHAUSTED. (Now, into the third, the tiredness is starting to come back, but oh well!)
You look absolutely fantastic and I’m so glad that your kids are SO excited!! Our little man isn’t quite a year and a half so he’s pretty much clueless, although he knows to hug my belly when we ask him “where’s Baby Jonathan?” (it’s a boy and yup he’s named already 🙂 ). So I’m hoping he’s happy about the new addition to the family! He loves other people’s babies and I take that as a good sign.
Hope everything goes smoothly for you from now until after the birth! Can’t wait to hear all about it! And you cracked me up with all your answers to the questions. Rock it, mama. 😀
Congrats to you, too, Jaime!! Exciting that you’re so close!! Fist bump for fairly easy pregnancies. We’re the lucky ones, overall, eh? Glad you enjoyed the Q&A… it was fun to write 🙂 🙂 🙂
Oh, congratulations! What an exciting time for you and your family!
Thanks Grace!! xoxo
Congratulations, Beth! Praying for a healthy pregnancy and baby!
Thanks Dena! I’ll take those prayers for sure! xoxo
Wow! Buckets of blessings on your sweet fam and especially you and the little one <3
Thanks, Joy! Much love to you! xoxo