Everyone loves to set goals at this time of year. Despite the negative nellies telling you that you’ll inevitably fail, I revel in this. I LOVE goals and planning and dreaming.
Isn’t it something like 74% of resolutions that are broken within the first 37 days, and 58% of statistics are made up on the spot?
Also: setting goals usually is accompanied by swoony new office supplies like post-its and highlighters and colour-coding and fresh bulletin boards, full of emptiness (<– please tell me you understand the allure of this?).
[I totally shoulda been a professional dreamer. I could have climbed that corporate ladder all the way to the freaking top. Then I would have been able to afford minions to carry out my many plans (Obviously I am *way* too INFP to carry them through to completion myself. I have follow-through issues, people. Hint: if I ever promise a follow-up or a series, quickly respond with “I’ll believe it when I see it”, or better yet “Ha! I bet you’ll never do it!”. There’s nary a motivator more powerful to my otherwise-head-in-the-clouds self as when I have something to prove. I’ll go the ends of the earth to prove you wrong. Gosh golly, this little rabbit trail is really not going in my favour, is it? I should get back to the point at hand.)]
When people talk about which resolutions they are making for the year ahead, they usually talk about the things they suck at and want to change. That’s totally valid, but many people set goals that are too vague and too large to achieve easily. I’ve been guilty of this myself in past years, and it has never worked out in my favour in the end. I still don’t know how to knit. So, for a fresh approach, I’m pondering what I’m NOT resolving to do this year.
Here’s what I am avoiding on my resolution list for 2014:
1. Be a better mom
I’m already supermom anyway. But really – what a terrible resolution. Most moms I know are already pretty awesome, but if there are real areas that require some growth, then set specific goals for pete’s sake! How on earth would you measure this at the end of the year? (“Yes! According to my calculations, I am approximately 13% better at motherhood in the first quarter alone! Yeehaw!”)
Instead, I am eyeing a specific parenting-related goal this year that I’ll share about later. This site will be my main motivator.
2. Lose weight
I have been feeling sluggish and pudgy lately from all of the indulging of the last little while. 2013 was a pretty stressful year in terms of time and energy (as was 2012 for that matter) and our kitchen/eating ideals have sadly been growing more and more distant.
Instead of just saying that I’d like to lose weight, I’m setting 2 specific kitchen/diet-related goals: 1) Start brewing kombucha, and 2) Experiment with an elimination diet to try and get to the source of the kids’ night-wakings and other miscellaneous minor complaints. Dairy, gluten, and food dyes are first on the list.
3. Blog more
It is so stupid hard to be content with enough, and not always want more, more, more – whether it’s time to myself to write, money in the bank account, or whatever else. I firmly believe that even growing a small business to help support your family should be secondary to the most important relationships in your life.
Contentment is key on this one, and I am determined to NOT resolve to just ‘blog more’. It’s not a self-discipline issue, it’s not a laziness issue. It’s a being-happy-with-whatever-time-you’ve-got issue, and I refuse to feel guilty if I don’t churn out the blog posts like a machine. I will first ensure that there’s a life being lived well that’s worth blogging about.
4. Learn to knit (crochet, sew, scrapbook, basket weave, snowboard, jiu jitsu, code html or php or abcdefg)
I am a creatively-minded person. Many creative pursuits are enticing to me. I currently invest a lot of time in my writing and as such don’t have time for any other hobbies. I’m owning it, and moving on. 2014 is not gonna be the year of knitting, and for the first time in a while it won’t be the Year of the Failed Knitting Resolution yet again.
5. Make more money
Maybe I will, maybe I won’t. As long as I can pay the bills, I’m good.
6. Be more patient
This is another one of those things that people say that I have to laugh at. You’re going to just wake up in the morning on January 1st and magically start upping your patience meter? Do you increase your patience limit kind of like how you increase the data limit on your smartphone, or is it more like a thermostat in your house that you just turn up and down at will? Will you shoot for 5% each month? What’s the rating system like? Are there jellybeans or chocolate chips or stickers involved? Who’s evaluating and reviewing on a monthly basis?
Instead, I’m resolving to print this and stick it to my wall or fridge. No, seriously. I’m actually going to print it out. That’s it. Just print it out and stick it where I can see it often.
7. Achieve xyz amount of traffic/subscribers here at R+H
I will set a few loose goals in this department for sure, but I’m not making any official resolutions. I’m open to whatever happens this year, so long as I remain committed, focused, and authentic to my values.
8. Exercise more
Ah yes, another immeasurable goal. Exercise is good. I’m not resolving to do it more, though. I’ll probably do it once warmer weather hits. If you are a habit/schedule person, then Fit2B Studio would be perfect for you. (Use the code ‘redandhoney’ to get 3 months for just $20).
9. Stop eating sugar
Sugar is more addictive than crack cocaine. Soooooo, there’s that.
10. Finally organize my closets/cupboards/garage/digital photos
With all that spare time I have, right? Hmm. Best to let this one play out as it may. I am a spur-of-the-moment organizer/housekeeper and I am prone to fits of random cleaning when the mood strikes. Sometimes that happens. Don’t laugh.
There we are. 10 resolutions I’m definitely not making this year.
What are you NOT resolving to do in 2014?
(Come back tomorrow for a list of a few things that I actually do hope to accomplish this year, including a subject that I’ve never before talked about on my blog. Don’t worry – it’s 90% written already so chances are decent that I’ll deliver on this one.)