Yikes, the homestretch is upon us! I can hardly believe that the month is soon drawing to a close. Some days I have been more motivated and inspired to write than others, but I have successfully posted every day thus far. Not exactly always on topic (according to the weekly topics I set out), but hey, I’m an INFP, and tend to leave things open-ended, in case ‘something better’ comes along. It’s a blessing and a curse, really. Anyway, this is really not the point of my post for today…
I want to take the next couple of days and talk about some things that I see as necessary for an amazing marriage, before we end off the month with some thoughts on womanhood.
Today I want to share what I think, then I want to hear from you. Mainly because I don’t feel I have it all figured out, and would value your wisdom and input.
One thing that I think is absolutely essential for an amazing marriage is physical touch (and there are rare exceptions, like when a spouse is away from home for extended periods of time, i.e. military, etc). For the most part, for couples living under the same roof and interacting on a daily basis, I think it is vital that there be regular physical acts of affection. And I don’t just mean the obvious act of intimacy. I mean kissing, hugging, holding hands, touching one another in any way. Back rubs and foot rubs, even the simple act of his thumb rubbing my hand absentmindedly as we hold hands, or the way our bums snuggle up to one another each night before we fall asleep, or how our feet find each other under the dinner table. The way our bodies press together in embrace in the kitchen when stress levels are high and we’re all tired, and we just want to be on the same page.
I know that different people have differing levels of need for physical touch/affection, and that can sometimes cause a strain in a marriage. There is however a minimum, I believe. I think physical affection is a necessary part of a healthy marriage. What that minimum is, each couple will have to decide for themselves. What I do know is that when those things listed above are absent from our days, we begin to feel more like (grumpy!) roommates than married lovers.
It’s just natural, isn’t it? When you are with someone you love, you feel inclined to reach out and touch them in some way. We are created as physical beings with bodies that crave touch. It is one of those primal human instincts that is so basic, nad the lack of touch can even be harmful.
It’s so easy when you’re tired, you’re busy, you’re focused on other things, to forget and let the day slip by with nary a kiss or cuddle. I try to be intentional about touch in my days with my honey, in our journey to a great marriage.
Do you find it easy to let physical affection slip through the cracks? Do you intentionally make a point of kissing your spouse every single day? Any other thoughts?