It was a few years ago and my kids were about 6 months, 2, and 4, and I was having one. of. those. days. The really awful, frustrating, day-that-feels-like-an-eternity kind of days where the whole day feels like one big fat mothering failure after another. If I’m being totally honest: I have had way too many of those days to count.
I remember it vividly – that feeling of utter despair.
If you’re a mom you can probably relate.
Dishes are piled up in the sink. You’re pulling clean underwear out of the dryer for your potty-training toddler. Your kids need a bath (and a haircut, too). Dinner is looking like scrambled eggs (again). And you’re pretty sure you didn’t win any awards for “the Most Patient and Gentle Mama” today.
In fact, on days like this you might be tempted to judge yourself even more harshly than that. Not only were you not at your best, but actually, you’re a terrible mom. A pathetic homemaker. The day was a disaster.
You probably deserve an F minus in motherhood. (Which is precisely what I posted on social media on that particular hard day.)
And on and on goes the litany in your head as you stew about the ways you didn’t match up or weren’t enough or were too whatever (angry, critical, impatient, disorganized, fill-in-the-blank).
You snap a shot of your depressing laundry pile after the kids go to bed and share it on Instagram with a self-deprecating comment and the hashtag #momfail. It’s only meant as a joke, of course, but deep down it feels a little truer than you wish it did.
If this sounds even remotely familiar, you need to know two things:
- You are not a failure. Most of us feel this way far more than we ever admit.
- All the ways you failed?? How awful you did today or last week? It’s just not true. You’re doing better than you think.
It’s precisely because I get it that I’m so excited to point you in the direction of this brand new (and free!) video series created by two moms (Stephanie Langford, creator of Ultimate Bundles, and myself, creator of this site!) who have lived their fair share of #momfail days.
Stephanie and I not only run our online businesses, we’re also moms in the trenches. We have eight kids and almost twenty years of mothering experience between us.
We also understand and have the deepest compassion for moms who are working their tails off, but still hitting the pillow at night with a heavy heart because they feel like they’re failing at one of the most important things they’ll ever do in their lives.
And so we’ve put together an honest, candid and incredibly encouraging series of three videos just for moms. It’s called “The Truth About #MomFail Culture: 10 Things You Need to Hear on the Hard Days”.
Steph and I had SO much fun filming these together. She’s such a dear friend to me that conversation flowed easily and naturally. We’ve had many of these heart-to-hearts over the years, and I really feel like this video series captures some of our best conversation.
(The photo below on the right was taken just before we started our day of filming. We had just run down the street in a torrential downpour, which is why we’re looking sorta bedraggled. Behind-the-scenes info: this is the reason my bangs look so awful in video # 1. Ha!)
Real conversation with real moms who get it.
It won’t solve all your problems, and much as they wish they could, they can’t reach through the computer and fold that pile’o’laundry for you. (But you can watch the videos while folding laundry – next best thing?!)
But we can all benefit from a fresh perspective and encouragement from someone who really gets it.
Each video is short – around 10 minutes, and you can watch it on any sort of device and whenever you’ve got a few spare minutes.
To watch the video series, just click this link and enter your name and email to sign up.
You’ll get access to the first video today, and then one per day after that. It’s only available for a short time, then it’s gone, so be sure to sign up today!
I'm Beth. I created Red & Honey because I'm obsessed with the wild art of wellness.